About 10 years ago my son Bob and I went to see a clairvoyant, the plan was for Bob to go first and I would go two hours later and we would cross reference our notes to see how accurate she was.

After Bob’s visit we sat and had pizza and Bob filled me in on what she had to say. Interestingly she nailed a few things off the top but then she asked Bob if it would be alright to talk about his dad. He agreed and she went on to say wow Bob you dad has a lot of very positive energy surrounding him and he will likely be very successful at everything he sets his mind upon BUT he will always have a hard time with his female relationships. I was in my third marriage at the time so we both had a good chuckle as we finished our pizza.

Then it was time for me to go in. She had never seen me and she had no idea I was related to Bob. In any case to cut to the chase maybe about 5 minutes in she started in on the positive energy I possessed. She talked about my past a bit and then about my future AND THEN about my relationships and how it was going to be very difficult for me to maintain a relationship.

Now I know we can fulfill our own prophecies but trust me – I don’t want this – REALLY – but here I go again. One and a half years and another one bites the dust!

The only difference is that this time it wasn’t all about me in fact I actually became a better person. Yes I actually became forgiving, patient, courteous, honest, humble, kind and generous – YES – I learned how to love and I learned that love was not a felling but something that I had to give away and most impressively when I gave this love away I actually found that I was capable of loving myself.

So why didn’t it work then – well to be 100% honest I realized that it was now time for her to move on. Yes I actually want her to move on and to find someone closer to her age. When I first met her to say the least she was a bit of a train wreck, but over the past year she has blossomed into a very beautiful woman and she really deserves to have a shot at a family. I have 4 boys in their mid-twenties and having been tied off over 25 years ago chances are it wasn’t going to happen with me. I could have never done this had I not found love – To truly love someone we must be willing to set them free!

This relationship has taught me so much about myself – I saw how all of her negative behaviour was a perfect reflection of my negative behaviour and that when I learned to love her and I still do, I realized that I never gave unconditional love to any of my ex’s, and I really need to make amends with them because they were all truly amazing, beautiful women. I was so blind yet I truly feel blessed!

So the moral of the story – love the one your with faults and all, whether it be for a reason, a season or a lifetime because when you give love you get love and when you forgive them for perceived harms they have done to you, you learn to forgive yourself – AND we never know when it’s time for another one to bite the dust!