The 5 Love Languages – Physical Touch
We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Numerous research projects in the area of child development have reached that conclusion: Babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.
Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing, and sexual intercourse are all common ways of communicating emotional love to one’s spouse. For some individuals, physical touch is their primary love language. Without it they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled, and they feel secure in the love of their spouse.
Don’t make the mistake of believing that the touch that brings pleasure to you will bring pleasure to her.
Gary Chapman – The 5 Love Languages
After reading this book and consciously taking steps to apply what I’d read to my daily interactions with my sons, my parents and friends, I was amazed at the positive impact they were having.
That being said the love language of “Physical Touch” had never been a strong suit of mine. OK – I’m a guy so sex and any foreplay to get to sex was pretty much what I believed to be the extent of touching. Holding hands, walking arm in arm or sitting close – well they never really crossed my mind – WHY – because “I”Âť felt uncomfortable doing it. But after reading this book I’m aware that “Physical Touch”Âť is important to one of my sons. So even though it may feel strange to me I throw the occasional arm around his shoulder and if you think this is all hog wash – come and catch a glimpse of the smile that erupts on his face each time I give this simple little gesture of love.
Just because one love language is the furthest thing from my mind – doesn’t mean it’s not the number one priority to the person I am interacting with.
